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curtisj76

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Ok guys, need some help for the wife. She is an athletic woman and when she gets a hold of one she bombs it. But, she's all over the place. She can step up and hit a hook, slice, super high, super low, and a lot of pushes. Today she hit a ball almost sideways, never seen anything like it. A few holes later she swung, missed the ball and made a divot right next to the ball (in between the ball and her). Later she made a full swing and somehow managed to move the ball about 2 inches forward. I just don't know where to start as she lacks a lot of fundamentals. I have a decent game but as you all know I don't know jack about "the swing". What DVD would you start her out with or what would you do? Thanks

Curtis
 
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welshdentist said:
Second the motion for building blocks....

Great video
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Me too!

Building blocks helps you get so many fundamentals correct. It also extends so seamlessly from chips and pitches to a full swing. Finally, it puts you in the position to build a really powerful repeating swing in the future.
 
curtisj76

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Well I tried to sit her down to watch it (building blocks) but got shot down. The problem is that she is in denial about her swing. She just left for the course to "practice". I try to tell her that she's not going to get better when she doesn't know what to work on. I'm about ready to say "screw it, you are on your own." I'm tired of trying to help and her not wanting to listen.
 
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curtisj76 said:
I'm about ready to say "screw it, you are on your own." I'm tired of trying to help and her not wanting to listen.
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This is the best answer for right now. Let her be on her own and don't try and offer her any help on the course either or give much thought IF she asks you a question. You have to wait for her to ask you.

Case in point (similar anyway) i'm at my local facility practing my short game and hitting out of the bunker because i need to practice as i've posted before don't find myself in many so don't get much "on the course practice." So i'm hitting shot after shot well (thanks to a recent review of Brian's Over & Out) and really not having much trouble at all with various techniques. However the whole time i'm in there there is another guy about 80 feet away from me (big long bunker at a practice green) who is a hacker who can't find his way out. I soooooooooooooooooo wanted to go over there and help him (just because he looked so frustrated not to get any money or anything) but kept my mouth shut. After practicing in there for about 15-25 minutes he eventually came over and asked how i get out the bunker with no trouble and he has so much.

So i gave him a mini 10 minutes lesson and had him hitting out with no problem and he went from completely depressed to supremely confident. However he was in the right frame of mind TO LISTEN which is key. If the person doesn't want the help or doesn't want to listen you are just wasting your time even trying.

Hope that helps
 
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LiftOff

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I agree with Jim. Don't say anything unless asked.

Don't give up because she isn't on your same 'clock' to improve.

Be patient. When/if she's ready she'll ask.

Otherwise, be supportive.
 
Richie3Jack

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Have you ever recorded her swing?

I usually find that those in denial about their golf swing are quickly faced with a harsh reality when it is recorded. It's amazing how many people think they swing it like Snead in his prime and just think it's a 'hand and eye coordination thang' when they fail to realize that their alignments are beyond horrendous and you could have the greatest amount of dexterity known to man, but you ain't striping the ball that way on a consistent basis.



3JACK
 
FloydPT38

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Jim Kobylinski said:
This is the best answer for right now. Let her be on her own and don't try and offer her any help on the course either or give much thought IF she asks you a question. You have to wait for her to ask you.

Case in point (similar anyway) i'm at my local facility practing my short game and hitting out of the bunker because i need to practice as i've posted before don't find myself in many so don't get much "on the course practice." So i'm hitting shot after shot well (thanks to a recent review of Brian's Over & Out) and really not having much trouble at all with various techniques. However the whole time i'm in there there is another guy about 80 feet away from me (big long bunker at a practice green) who is a hacker who can't find his way out. I soooooooooooooooooo wanted to go over there and help him (just because he looked so frustrated not to get any money or anything) but kept my mouth shut. After practicing in there for about 15-25 minutes he eventually came over and asked how i get out the bunker with no trouble and he has so much.

So i gave him a mini 10 minutes lesson and had him hitting out with no problem and he went from completely depressed to supremely confident. However he was in the right frame of mind TO LISTEN which is key. If the person doesn't want the help or doesn't want to listen you are just wasting your time even trying.

Hope that helps
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Listen to Jim- This is THE advice- I've been married 17 years and am just now really learning this. Don't look on her as a project. Enjoy time with her and wait for the right time--even if you KNOW the perfect DVD, etc for her. Just like you might not want her to show you the "perfect chapter" in a book on how to be a great husband.
 
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Well, you can't do anything else. I know how to stop people to stop smoking but they have to actually want to. She'll watch it when she's "had enogh" of being rubbish. Despite the fact that watching it she can go to the course to practice it all she likes.

Could be worse Curtis, my wife shot 67 to get down to 0.1

Now THAT hurts :D
 
vjcapron

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If she's taking a divot between her feet and the ball, check the swing plane - she's swinging way too upright and the clubhead therefore has too much down and not enough out during the downswing.
 
dashfan87

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Just got my wife started golfing too... shes pretty limber and had a good swing to start with, all i needed to do was get her plane a little steeper and make sure she was using the full shoulder turn (for power) and she was doing pretty good!
have fun old man ;P
 
Shot Limit

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Wow, my Old Lady gets nausea when I talk about golf. I could only imagine what would happen if I tried to teach her somthing :eek: !!!

Besides, she knows everything already. :D

Good luck curtis.
 
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dashfan87 said:
Just got my wife started golfing too... shes pretty limber and had a good swing to start with, all i needed to do was get her plane a little steeper and make sure she was using the full shoulder turn (for power) and she was doing pretty good!
have fun old man ;P
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Disclaimer:Just having a bit of fun here ;)

Limber and a swinger, the ideal woman ;) ;)

My wife tends to be a hooker when the mood takes :eek:
 
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curtisj76 said:
Well I tried to sit her down to watch it (building blocks) but got shot down. The problem is that she is in denial about her swing. She just left for the course to "practice". I try to tell her that she's not going to get better when she doesn't know what to work on. I'm about ready to say "screw it, you are on your own." I'm tired of trying to help and her not wanting to listen.
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Curtis:
I was lucky enough to take mine to see Mike Jacobs, and it revived her enthusiasm. So I get guilt free golf. Can you get her to watch any of the stuff from this site on the internet? How about printing out Brian's Auto Success Articles? You know you can't take her to any other instructors, knowing what you know from here.
Good Luck
 
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wdking said:
Curtis:
I was lucky enough to take mine to see Mike Jacobs, and it revived her enthusiasm. So I get guilt free golf. Can you get her to watch any of the stuff from this site on the internet? How about printing out Brian's Auto Success Articles? You know you can't take her to any other instructors, knowing what you know from here.
Good Luck
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I thought about having her watch Soft Draw but I think she needs more fundamentals first. Time will tell.
 
curtisj76

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Don't worry guys, I've given up. I told her this is our last couples league. I'm honestly hoping she quits the game. I know, I'm an arse.
 
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whipnzip

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curtisj76 said:
Well I tried to sit her down to watch it (building blocks) but got shot down. The problem is that she is in denial about her swing. She just left for the course to "practice". I try to tell her that she's not going to get better when she doesn't know what to work on. I'm about ready to say "screw it, you are on your own." I'm tired of trying to help and her not wanting to listen.
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Too funny.
Sorry... can relate somewhat.

I'd leave the DVD in the machine, the case on the table and watch it whenever she is nearby. Then after a bit turn it off and watch the tube.

Leave the case on the table so she knows what's in the machine.

My bet, and you might win this one... she's your wifey :) ... she'll take a peek now and again.

Don't help her. The student has to be ready for the Master.
She'll let you know when... if ever.

This Wifey talk reminds me of a joke.

Guy's watching tube and wifey comes in... he asks... honey, can you get me one before it starts?
She, being an exemplary specimen brings a nice cold one.
Three more times at 20 minute intervals wifey comes in to look and he asks her each time "honey, can you get me one before it starts?" Each time she brings a nice cold one and takes the empty to the trash.

She peeks in yet again and he asks "honey, can you get me one before it starts?"
Well... now, like a light switch, her demeanor changes... and she gets pissed.
He says... Ah, never mind Honey, it's already started.
:)

Good luck.
Cheers.
 
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