lagster,
As Homer told Yoda when asked what to pull with, and I paraphrase, "I don't care what you pull with, just pull". It doesn't matter, as long as the only force on the club is along the shaft and no force vector is applied perpendicular to the shaft. This means what you do with the right hand a very delicate matter(pun intended). And, a soft right side is important. If you're not sure what to do with the right hand, pull with it!
Pushing is a whole different animal, and isn't compatible with max trigger delay, snap release swinging. Pushers drive the club to the in-line condition with the right arm, mag #2 laggers let COAM do it all, and max trigger delayers let COAM do it in as short a time as possible.
Believe me, I have YEARS of experience with this subconscious fear thing. It goes much deeper than fear of the clubface not squaring up, but rather with the clubhead not coming anywhere remotely close to the ball. Of all combinations of components that I've tried, the max trigger delay, small pulley, snap release is THE most counterintuitive. I suppose this is why some protest it's very existence, much less it's teaching.
I recently attended a "Golf Show", complete with all the glitz. There were manuf reps, shops, etc. A former "Top 50" instructor had a booth hawking all sorts of stuff, including The Power Angle Pro. I played naive, and asked how it worked. I swung it up to the point of contact with the right shoulder, and then said, "so now I maintain contact with right shoulder and drive the right shoulder downplane - right?" "Oh no", Mr Top 50 said, "you must let the clubhead drop down immediately or else the clubface won't have time to square up". I said, "But wouldn't it be better to maintain contact and so retain the wristcock for more power?" He looked me up and down, and said, "Well yes, if you're STRONG enough to square up the clubface.", in a tone that implied that he was pretty sure I couldn't. As I walked off, he asked if I wanted to buy one, and I told him that I had, long ago, already perfected clubhead throwaway.
That observation about that premature in-line condition is right on. The fact that in-line happens so certainly, and so quickly, is the key to it's use and why delaying it's onset so profitable. And the SLIGHTEST amount of "forward" in the hands at the expense of "downward" will cause in-line to happen too soon.