Nothing is really occurring instantaneously. Even light takes a finite time to travel from A to B. Some advance that telepathic communication is perhaps instantaneous.
We probably have all experienced hearing the echo of our voice, shouting away, perhaps in the mountains, showing that it takes some time for sound waves to travel in the air.
Throwing a small pebble into a quiet lake or simple teasing the surface of a water in a bath tub one notices the waves traveling on the surface.
In general the denser the material the faster is the propagation of any disturbance in that material. The animation portrays a medium as a series of particles connected by springs. As one individual particle is disturbed, it transmits the disturbance to the next interconnected particle. This disturbance continues to be passed on to the next particle.
We are used to judge the world around us based on our senses. But we have a very limited and narrow 'window' of perception. For instance our reaction time is of the order of the down swing, i.e., 0.3 sec.
The duration of impact however is only about 0.0004 sec and is hence definitely outside our narrow 'window' of perception for the world around us. And this is precisely the reason why intuition is of no avail to solve the problem posed in the opening post. We can't readily intuitively cope with things occurring in such a very short time scale.
Let's now look at the problem at hand. Many posters have given it a try to come up with an educated guess or an intuitive opinion with also the science guys giving it a try. The crux of the matter in the problem posed is the finite time it takes for a disturbance to travel through a slender steel golf shaft.
The impact disturbance propagates through the stainless shaft and is reflected back towards the ball.
In a thin stainless steel rod a disturbance propagates with a velocity of 5000 m/s.
The steel shaft length is 1.25 m, therefore the total propagation time, to and fro, is 0.0005 sec.
Impact duration is however less, i.e., 0.0004 sec.
What a darned pity, the ball is gone and on its way before the huge mass even had a chance to give the ball even a little fair well kiss, how sad.
The big mass might have been 1 kg, 10 kg, 100 kg, 1000 kg, 10000 kg, 100,000 kg, etc., it would have made no difference. The shaft has effectively decoupled the clubhead mass from the big mass. However if we had changed the mass at the other end of the shaft, i.e., m2, the clubhead mass, it would have made a difference not having to cope with the time delay due to the propagation as shown in the figure below.
There were several correct answers but Vicious Circle was the only one giving also a correct concise explanation. mjstrong starting to get close feeling bothered by the fact that I had specified the length of the shaft.
For those interested to have another look at the formulas governing impact have a look my post - 'Golf Impact Physics'.
The moral of the story of my opening post is simply trying to make people a bit more aware that feeling and intuition were of no avail and should be taken with the precaution in golf swing related issues. Better and faster getting to the truth using as much as feasible science and technology as is BM's approach.
The intuitive feeling about heavy hit is and has been very strong indeed. For instance the late Homer Kelley, for one, subscribed to it. But rather incomprehensible is that the late Mindy Blake, a reputed engineer, who has lectured in physics, has written two books on golf both having as central concept exactly the idea of the slow heavy hit. So posters should not feel ashamed a bit when having it all wrong.
Final opinion poll result: